IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE TRUE

      Looking back through old posts for something else I stumbled across this one from January, '23. It is so much better than anything I could put together today I am recycling it. I still wonder what Andy would say. 

IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE TRUE

This blog was born in August of 2012 in Halifax, Nova Scotia. Since then its following has remained a sparse few folks who either Googled their way here by mistake or already knew me and for one reason or another kept coming back. Thanks! I appreciate their dropping in. It keeps me working on vocabulary, being concise which is not easy by the way, and knowing when it’s alright to just throw words at the page from a meandering stream of consciousness. 

I like to identify with Andy Rooney, a writer featured on the CBS program, 60 Minutes. He passed away over a decade ago at 92 but when I feel writer’s block and ideas stay stuck down in a neural wrinkle I still default to, ‘What would Andy Rooney say.’ He took ideas from the Common Sense pool and turned them upside down which, sooner or later offended nearly everyone. In his own, self-assuming style he insulted or provoked people of every color and ethnicity, every LGBT, every belief. The network pulled him off the air but their audience switched to another channel until they reinstated Andy, which they always did. In hindsight, what separated Andy from Bill O’Reilly and Bill Maher was that the pundits spoke from their own self appointed authority, “Believe me, I know!” but Andy kept asking, “How does this work?” Andy wasn’t selling a canned belief system or an unholy scheme, he was sharing his search for possibility and meaning. When his readers swamped him with complaints he responded with; “When so many of your friends disagree with you so strongly it must be time to rethink your own position.” His disclaimers and apologies were pointed and contrite. When he redefined his thinking and apologized it was convincing, not (Bill Maher or Bill O’Reilly) propaganda and double talk that changed the subject without addressing the issue. 

Andy Rooney surfaced at the peak of white male privilege and that explains a lot. It was a cultural constant, like the air we breathe and our mother’s embrace. I came along twenty years later and to some extent we stumbled over that same self serving prejudice and we both asked similar questions like, “What is wrong here?” Finding fault within one’s own culture and peer group is difficult. Challenging it in public is asking for a rebuke. That’s enough reason for me to liked Andy. On his best day he reasoned that he could be wrong, that he was often wrong and that occupying a credible balance was preferable to the comfort of partisan privilege. 

My reading list now includes scholars like Yuval Harari (Sapiens) and Jonathan Haidt (The Righteous Mind). I never needed convincing but human’s evolutionary history and behavior patterns are consistent with the animal kingdom. We are animals. We are more like pelicans, whales and monkeys than we are different. Our claim to fame (that we cannot take credit for) is a weird shaped mouth and larynx that can shape sounds to make consonant and vowels, to make syllables and words. Add to that the tools in our tool box. We have imagination and we can tell stories. With Story humans can self identify in time and space, reflect on the past and ponder what comes next. Humans have been begging the same insightful questions all along; where did we come from, how did we get here and why? 

Paleolithic people were smart as can be but they didn’t know their own backstory (evolution) and their most scientific tool was the naked eye. So they made up Stories that they could understand. It had to make sense of a complicated, dangerous world. We call those primitive stories, ‘Myth’. In that complicated, dangerous world we required knowledge and a skill set for survival, replication and reproduction; to not go extinct. From mountains to seashore, culture to culture, different groups of people did survive and reproduce sufficiently. We are the flesh & blood evidence. What Harari points out is: People don’t all share the same myth, never have. But if they work it doesn’t matter. 

Harari has opened Pandora’s box. Take every mythical belief and the behaviors they provoke, put it together with how those groups conform and then consider what they think it means. That would be their collective Story. All of it: what you experience, how it affects individuals, the clan or tribe over the short term and/or the long haul, how people connect Cause and Effect relationships, what they reject and what they believe, it is their Story. Remember that one tribe’s Story could be very different than another tribe’s Story. The environment affects everything in the human saga; climate, availability of food and water, dangerous predators, competing with other tribes. Altogether we inherit a well framed Story that has taken, (who knows how many) generations to formalize into myth, your Story (history, beliefs & behavior) doesn’t have to be true. It just has to work (replicate, reproduce, carve its own niche in the environment and sustain the species.) 

Speaking for myself, Harari’s ‘It Only Has To Work’ observation is a profound revelation. I am not selling his book or professing my discipleship but the door has opened and the tide has turned in my thinking. E.O.Wilson (R.I.P.) condensed the idea down into a simple sentence: “The trouble with Homo sapiens is that we have paleolithic emotions, medieval institutions and godlike technology.” So said, I want to follow up on that idea as I move on into 2023. I can refer to this January 7, 2023 post and move on with the premiss, It doesn’t have to be true. It only has to work. 

FOR A FEW MINUTES

  I just came in from shoveling snow but I’ll go back out to finish the work in a while. Trucks from the city have been around, I can hear one now with its blade scraping against the blacktop. My educated guess is that we received about 3” of light, fluffy stuff that is easy to shovel. I know better than to over-do so use my shovel like a snow plow blade, push stuff downslope and to he side so I am mostly pushing down hill with little little bending over and no heavy lifting. 
Accuweather is a weather forecasting service that has been around for at least thirty years. I check their 10 day forecast, understanding how difficult it is to predict high and low temps that far ahead. Two weeks ago all of the forecasters were telling us the winter blast wasn’t over, that February was going to bring more snow and the most bitter bitter lows we’ve seen in years. I checked on the 10th for this week and the forecast for today’s low was -2. When I got up at 7:00 the temp was -2. It has gone up to 4 degrees and the high is supposed to get up to 9. I’ll try to keep up with it but I’m not betting against Accuweather. 
I am finishing my second mug of coffee and put away several cookies (several for me is 6 or 8). I’ll go sit down and close my eyes for a few minutes, set alarm on my cell phone. (few for me is 15, give or take.) Then I’ll layer up and go outside. Even in the cold that light, fluffy snow will start to settle and the easy part will become not so easy. But all that is left is the stuff on the low end, the steepest part of the drive. My glasses will fog up when I come back in so I can’t see a thing. But I’ll close my eyes again for a few minutes and they will be good to go. I expect to go the rest of the day inside. Accuweather is predicting a small dusting of snow and a low temp here tonight of -9 degrees. I can hear the snowplow again, scraping along the curbs to get as much snow back into my drive as possible but that’s alright. They do a good job and have a lot of it done before I get out of bed. 

IF I WERE YOUNGER

  A guest minister conducted our service this morning. As denominations go his is about as liberal as Christians get. There are two Churches of Christ, one that is extremely conservative and evangelical. Their faith is rooted in the conviction that the bible is not only divinely inspired but absolutely true, word for word, every word. The other Church of Christ has a prefix to make sure they don’t get confused; The United Church of Christ (UCC). In Grand Rapids, Michigan before I retired in 2001 I was a member at Saint John’s UUC. There were no hard-fast rules on what was required of members but our pastor’s degree was in philosophy and his message was always about redemption, not salvation. He was very familiar with Joseph Campbell’s views on God. He said that God is a metaphor for a mystery that is beyond human comprehension (or) in my translation, we attribute to God (the metaphor) what we cannot understand. That’s what made the church attractive in the first place. 
Anyway, out guest minister preached on how to be joyful in the act of defiance. In the audience you would have to have been in a coma for the past four months to not know what he was talking about. In our spiritual community the principles of justice, fair play, equity, democratic process and environmental responsibility are at the core of our religion which basically puts the White House and Congress at odds with everything we hold dear. 
We were put on notice that others like us would be challenged soon to put up or shut up. Some of us will likely be arrested at protests, peaceful or otherwise but that should be expected when demagogues, authoritarian bigots and despots don’t have to answer to anyone. That’s not me having a tantrum, that’s the Christian minister who is challenging a bunch of progressive activists who have just been kicked to the curb. When I vent my disappointment I remember how old I am. Not one to throw stones or provoke authority figures I will be left to call and write my elected officials. My guess is that every elected partisan, either side has an AI program that reads and tallies how many (for & against) contacts come through their office but the only ones who get a legitimate response will be those who donate to their re-election campaigns. I could go sit outside their office with a placard but I’d probably need an expensive permit but there you go, off to jail. I’m too old to immigrate. Nobody wants me living off American retirement and draining their national health resources 
When this kind of sh*t happens (Project 2025) I default to my favorite make-believe. When my great-great-great grandparents immigrated to Nova Scotia in the 1880’s they stayed a while and ended up in Indiana. I fault them for robbing me of my Canadian roots. But then my parents would have never met and I would be like every other non-person whose parents never met and they were never conceived. So if I blame anyone it will have to be my mom and dad. They stayed in the USA during the Great Depression, got support from their families and I turned 2 just a few months before Pearl Harbor. 
My experience (journey) in Canada may be thin but it is real. Two months in Nova Scotia in 2001, a month in British Columbia in 2010, Nova Scotia again another four months in 2012, and a long drive up and down the AlCan highway in 2015: I know enough to know I love the culture and I made friends there who still ask when I’m coming back. I asked one friend (a technical writer & musician) what it’s like living next to America. She replied without a second thought; “A lot like living next door to the Simpsons” (Homer, Marge, Bart & Lisa). 
When I give it serious thought the thought always takes thee same path. All things being equal I would have been a much better Canadian than I am an American. I have a friend (Unitarian-Universalist minister) In Halifax who spent most of his professional career (an engineer) in Atlanta, Georgia, retired and came home to Nova Scotia and became a minister. He thinks the big difference between us is that the USA gained independence through a bloody revolution (A zero sum game). While it took longer in Canada the process came out of negotiation and a (Win-Win) solution. One culture is still looking for a fight while the other is willing to compromise for the greater good. I don’t think Norm’s assessment is all there is but I think his view makes a strong case and is easily defended.
If I were younger immigration to Canada would be a worthy option. Back in the 70’s when Americans were escaping to Canada to avoid Nixon’s unwinnable war in Vietnam I was starting a career with a Master’s degree and a young family. We could have made that leap with relative ease. As I think of it now there is an urge to apologize to my middle age kids for robbing them of their Canadian roots. I doubt they would feel the same, who knows? The road not traveled is not for us to know and I’m not going to blame my parents after all. But when authoritarian bigots go boldly about robbing me of my American roots I feel a strong pull to Halifax and a culture that works faithfully to create Win-Win solutions. For the record, I would think long and hard if the opportunity to migrate north was made real. I could live in Saint Stephen, New Brunswick, just across the bridge from Calais, Maine, a stone’s throw in distance but far enough to be under the red maple leaf. Wishful thinking. Talk’s cheap when the possibility is so remote.

WE FUMBLED THE BALL

  There was a point in my life, sort of a transition from a gleaner of wisdom to its source. You’re old enough and experienced enough to know better but still find yourself on the receiving end of condescending, middle age authority. It’s like morning dew, not enough to take notice until it collects in tiny droplets on the windshield. Then I decide how to deal with it, rejection with one swipe of the wiper blade or share space with what has come to me uninvited. I was full time student throughout my late 20’s, about a decade behind my high school classmates. My mentors treated me a little different than my teenage peers, didn’t preach at me in particular but in a group the lessons were condescending. The ability and will to prepare was something I had never thought much about but a lesson well learned. Still, you can’t treat every responsibility with the same sense of urgency so the ability and will to prioritize became the real life lesson. Research credibly informs us that people will do what makes them feel good or comfortable in the moment long before they take on the important but unpleasant task. That wisdom hasn’t changed; “Do things in the order of their importance.” Wow! How many times have I heard that line? Sounds easy but somewhere in the bible it says, “. . . the mind is willing but the flesh is weak.” But I know better and that gives me an edge when I need it. 
I am well into my 8th decade and I should know better. When used in the same context, growth and learning are synonymous. I prefer 'growth'. Intellectual-emotional growth is forward leaning while no-growth signals decline and end times. Nothing wrong with growing as you age just keep moving your feet. Wisdom is what we say it is, a rule of thumb that to guide you; but 2nd hand wisdom is simply what worked for somebody else and feels good. But trusting religion to reveal all truths is diametrically opposed to trusting reason and science and I trust the numbers. As a profound Skeptic I doubt I will give in to myth, wannabe wisdom or demagoguery. I have wrestled for decades with ideologies and beliefs in search of a best way. My heroes are open ended thinkers who would rather be disappointed with the truth than (fat, dumb & happy) believing that greed is good and that social diversity is bad. 
I am wandering a little bit, off track from what I started. At my age most of my heroes are passed on but their writing and actions leave no doubt as to their virtue. Ruminating on how I will be remembered, for how long or if at all, it’s too late to become something new. Still, it is a trigger to be consistent with whatever shadow I leave behind. I am still interested in good information and new ideas but the times have not leaned toward due process and credible, reliable sources. Expertise has been associated with cultural stereotypes. People from New England with a PhD. are automatically labeled liberal elites, out of touch with the people they claim to represent while QAnon, a loose-knit network of conspiracy theorists with neither expertise nor credibility claim a huge following. (Believe what feels good without tangible proof). 
My point to begin with was; after World War 2 the next generation had all of the resources and talent to change the world for the better but as a people we fumbled the ball. We practiced greed, racial hatred and environmental abuse as well as other vises. Seventy years later ‘Karma’ has proven itself; what goes around comes back around. The same self-serving abuse of power, greed and white privilege that gave us Hitler & Tojo have come back around. I’m just an old Biology teacher who sees the similarity between a petri dish full of bacteria and a global community that feeds until there is nothing left to eat and then consumes it’s self. I would much rather end with a hopeful, positive observation. When the National Football League is more important than the United Nations one has to dig deep into the culture, down to family and friends to put your hands on something you want to wake up to. Tomorrow I expect to wake up to warm feet, clean socks and a short drive to drink coffee with a small group of friends. We disagree sometimes but never on anything more serious than where to get the best BBQ.

IS JUST A GOODBY

  When my room was just down the hall from my parent’s and they had no qualms about telling me what should and shouldn’t be it was my mother who kept me informed. Dad told good stories but otherwise he wasn’t much for conversation. If I wasn’t a happy kid at least I was content. I made do with what I had except for wanting to be older, like my big brother. When we moved from the city to the country, school was nearly three miles away and there was no bus. So David got a full size, 2nd hand bicycle and we rode the bike to and from school. He drove while I sat sidesaddle on the bar. I was a 1st grader and Dave in the 4th, I got teased at school for the sidesaddle thing. If there was snow or bitter cold my mom drove us in the car but otherwise we bundled up and rode the bike. Needless to say, I wanted my own bike and I let it be known; “I can’t wait until I get my own bicycle.” Mom always had the same advice; “Don’t wish your life away.” When Dave got his driver’s license he got a job, bought an old car and I envied his newfound freedom. “I can’t wait until I turn 16.” Again, my mom shared her wisdom, not to wish my life away. 
Tapping into that sense of being in the moment took a long time for me to appreciate but then Life Lessons move in their own time. Someone once told me that Life Lessons are framed by circumstances and if you don’t learn it then-&-there the lesson recycles and reboots. The same lesson will come back around in a different situation with a new set of circumstances and we get to experience it again, and again, and again until we finally get it. My mother knew that but she didn’t squander it to a 6 or 13 year-old. She knew that her one-liner about wishing one’s life away would resonate in its own good time. 
Something to think about; as years keep accumulating the way that pattern reverses itself doesn’t need an explanation. I wish, if I could have my wish, that some experiences just hang on and on, dwell in a time warp that slows down to suit your appetite. But my mom would tell me; “Wish in one hand and spit in the other and see which one fills up first.” Of course someone else would give me the same advice except for substituting ‘pee’ for ‘spit’. My mom would never, not ever suggest the pee option even in jest or for effect. The kernel of truth there is another lesson; time flies when you’re having fun. I found that having fun is not a hard-fast requirement for time to fly. All it takes is to be busy with something that requires one’s undivided attention. 
The longer I live the more I appreciate my mom’s patience and persistence. Not that my dad wasn’t wise or interested. Whatever he had to share would come out in a narrative, a story with a beginning, a middle and an end. She wasn’t condescending but maybe didactic and certainly informative. The two of them, they learned how to live in the Great Depression, she had a profound religious faith and he with a profound sense of fairplay. Between them they combined their talents and gave us (3) boys a proper home. In many ways we’ve mirrored their values but each in our own way. All of us rejected the Christian tradition, I was the last to make that leap. I was the only son to embrace plurality, diversity and equity as how one should live. My World View is left leaning progressive but my practice is to doubt all (every) ideology that competes for power. My brothers both doubted everything that conflicted with their me-first appetite. Neither had much interest in riches and power, just enough to satisfy their creature comfort and unmerited privileges. Likable, even lovable, the Greater Good was no more to them than high-minded propaganda. 
With my StoryTelling history (maybe inherited or modeled from Dad) my favorite stories are songs; 3 verses, a bridge & a chorus. Short stories with meter and rhyme; if it’s good enough I never forget. There are so many great songs, for ever so many situations and experience it’s hard to pick one that speaks best to family, siblings and this journey. Wandering off the subject here but I’ve been watching You Tube (Playing For Change) from Australia. The song was first recorded 55 years ago and it’s still current, still potent, still awesome; Crosby Stills & Nash “Teach Your Children Well. When my days have all been spent and people gather ‘round to wish me godspeed, taking comfort in each other’s company and confronting their own mortality I would ask whoever’s in charge to let me go with this song. The You Tube (Playing For Change) group from Australia goes over the top. I have been watching, listening to it for months, not every day but several times a day on many days. It is a good song to end the day with. If you haven’t listened to the (Playing For Change) version then you should.
    You, who are on the road; Must have a code that you can live by
    And so become yourself; Because the past is just a goodbye
Chorus
    Teach your children well; Their father's hell did slowly go by
    Feed them on your dreams; The one they pick's the one you'll know by
    Don't you ever ask them why; If they told you, you would cry
    So just look at them and sigh; And know they love you

    You, of tender years; can’t know the fears that your elders grew    by
    Help them with your youth; They seek the truth before they can die.
    Repeat Chorus

I OPEN EVERY DOOR

  I am acquainted with a very nice person, nearly my age who likes this blog except for when I write about the current ideological divide (politics). Their comment was, “I could do without the political drama.” I have always invited comments and I do make a conscious effort at civility. By definition, the words judgment and opinion are almost synonymous except, one requires objective evidence while the other is driven by subjective feelings. Still I would think you can have strong feelings about objective conclusions. I feel the same way about traditional religion; I can do without self-righteous hyperbole. At the same time I keep trying to find balance. Belief & Faith are kissing cousins but (again) by definition, belief is a measure of acceptance. I can accept the weather forecast without having much faith in it. Faith goes beyond acceptance. Requiring no compelling proof it is accepted as an absolute truth. I believe in many conservative principles still I have no faith in the way they want to accomplish those ideas. 
Since I discovered Elie Wiesel (Holocaust survivor & Nobel Laureate) I have embraced his thoughts on writing. He said, “I write to understand as much as to be understood.” I write in self defense, to satisfy the 12 year-old who is trapped inside my head. He would rather have me struggle with an ugly truth than take comfort in either ignorance or denial. I cannot dig in the dirt and not get it on me; it is what it is.  There is no satisfaction in a bad diagnosis. But I feel compelled to write the story however bad it may smell. I get the benefit (Wiesel). When I’ve finished, a large, complicated story has been organized and digested. I don’t memorize anything but I can connect the dots. Emily Dickinson said, “Not knowing when the dawn will come I open every door.” Between the two of them I find a thread of vindication. Any political ‘Drama’ I generate is more than offset by positive, grateful stories. My unmerited good fortune and good life are almost always mentioned somewhere in my story and I’ll probably keep doing what I’ve been doing. 

THE PERCEPTION OF CONTROL

Good StoryTellers need be able to reflect on their own story, how it fleshes out as experience and more important, what it means. Some would dismiss my reflecting as Navel Gazing but what do they know! I’ve been reflecting on and off for a week on the same idea. I wouldn’t say it’s funny but it is interesting how important experiences can lay dormant for years and then bloom again when you least expect it. 
Thirty years ago my awesome job in Kansas City imploded along with the school district. All of the resource teachers (over 100 of us) our jobs were eliminated and we could either move on or be reassigned to a traditional classroom position. As a (door closes & a window opens) kind of person I moved to Baton Rouge, Louisiana and a science teaching position at an alternative high school. Our students, all (120) of them had been expelled from public schools. They were in trouble with the courts regardless of their age and answered directly to court appointed case workers. The only thing they had going for them was a serious desire for an education and tough love at Northdale Academy. As long as they stayed out of trouble and were making progress toward a diploma they stayed in a state of limbo between self-defeating influences and the promise of an open-ended possibility. The Northdale Story would read like a Tom Clancy novel and we have neither time nor space here for that.
Driving to school on the interstate in late October, traffic was stopped in gridlock and I was hit from behind. The impact sent my little Mazda truck up and on top of the car in front of me; a total loss. If you have never been in such a violent collision I don’t think I can translate the feeling into words. I’ll never forget the force of that jolt or the sense of helplessness. After that I got a ride to and from school with another teacher, rode my bicycle otherwise but not anxious to replace the truck just yet. The challenge at school was surreal. As a white man from the North we had a culture clash where neither understood the other’s purpose and accepting the other’s ground rules was out of the question.
By Thanksgiving I realized it would take more time and energy than I could justify to break the ice with my students and I gave notice to my Principal. He thanked me for my efforts and assured me the kids were trying. They had softened some with me but I wanted more than just a job. What I had been doing was negotiating a cease-fire and I needed to see academic progress or I wasn’t doing my job. Long story short; my son in Kansas City started looking for a used truck for me. He is the real-deal truck guy and I trust him to do a good search and make a good deal. When I returned to Kansas City on Christmas break of ‘95 there was a blue, 1980 GMC Sonoma parked in his drive. Before that I had applied for a midyear opening at Allendale High School near Grand Rapids. The week after Xmas I drove my GMC Sonoma to Michigan, interviewed and signed a contract with Allendale to begin teaching the second week of January. The gig at Allendale turned out to be a fairytale ending for a 35 year career, consolidating all previous retirement benefits from 4 states into Michigan’s system. It was absolutely the right place and exactly the right time. The Louisiana thing was a grand adventure, by definition a situation where the outcome is unknown and it holds the possibility of both victory and defeat. It turned out to be both. The (Life Lesson) was one you could only appreciate through perseverance, a relentless struggle and to some degree a sense of loss. Still it set me up perfectly for the Allendale opportunity. The door closed and a window opened. 
Leap forward 30 years; Kansas City, MO. January is supposed to be windy and cold with snow and ice and it has been but the roadways are clear and dry again. I was driving a familiar stretch of road through some woods. Cresting a hilltop I saw remnants of ice and snow on the blacktop ahead. There was no shoulder, none at all, only a narrow, snow filled ditch and a wire fence stretched between roadside trees. It is mind boggling how fast the perception of control can be stripped away. I tried to make course corrections but felt the right front tire drop down into that thin ditch and in a split second I knew I couldn’t keep us out of the trees. I don’t know if it was before or after the air bags went off but I felt the jolt and saw cracks run across the windshield like a spiderweb. We were stopped cold in a heartbeat as the Dodge Caravan and the tree became one together in a grim, abstract sculpture. 
I was upset, still am; a total loss and I had only liability insurance. They had already raised my rates because of my age and any significant claim would either put coverage out of reach or result in cancelation. I knew that going in. My decision had been and still is; drive an inexpensive old unit and take my chances. Since there were no injuries and no property damage other than the van, no violations, hauling the wreck back to my driveway was the only consequence. The police didn’t care who I was as long as the firemen said I was OK, just wanted to get the road cleared. But even as I rode with the tow truck driver, before we got to my house I couldn’t help but think about an open window somewhere. The Dodge had some nice features but I didn’t like its looks, named it Feo (Spanish for Ugly) and hated the way it drove. I had been driving a pickup for decades and the van simply couldn’t measure up to my expectations. 
        It’s been a week now. I am without transportation other than family offers to help get me where I need to be. I still have flashes, reflections on riding the end of a bull whip when it cracks. I reflect on the crash on I-10 back in ’95. This one didn’t make me ache and pain but I was going much slower than the car that plowed into me in Baton Rouge. Kinetic energy is going to have its way. On the brighter side I just got a text message from my son, the same son. He found an older but well cared for, low mileage Ford Ranger online. He talked with the old man who owns it and we are driving maybe 5 hours to (Oklahoma) next weekend to look at it. His asking price is within my reach but barely. Still, if it proves out I’ll feel a lot better turning the key, big side mirrors and pulling hills at 1,800 rpm. I think this is a window opening. How long windows stay open is another thing so if this one closes I trust there will be others and I’m not giving up. The crash itself will never be a good thing but sometimes bad things require a course correction that leads to something better. If not for the crash in Baton Rouge and the struggle at Northdale Academy the road back to Michigan would never have unfolded. One cannot know how things might have turned out on the road not taken but the Michigan Story is still turning pages and I wouldn’t want it any other way. So here I am again at a new beginning.